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To kick off the month I decided to go with a new poll to find out a little more about the type of people reading the dapperlifestyle. Is marriage just a dying tradition or has the age and significance of it changed? Your vote is appreciated!
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5 comments
deanna says:
Aug 1, 2010
personally i think one should wait until A) they know they are in love/found ‘the one’ and B) it is financially feasible. no cutting corners due to haste on what is supposed to be the most important day of your life.
et voilà.
grahambelldd says:
Aug 1, 2010
very valid points for sure. Thanks for the comment Deanna
Dziuba says:
Aug 1, 2010
I know I want to spend my life with my current girlfriend. But I can’t really come up with an argument as to why marriage is necessary. After a few years of common law, we’d get to file our taxes together anyway. I suppose we will oblige the tradition because of her parents’ Catholic lifestyle. We’ve discussed our plans and reject the pressure from relatives to “tie the knot” on any kind of timeline.
I think the wedding ceremony and ensuing celebration has come under heavy pressure from society and ego. Film and television have bound us to think that all weddings need to be like Chelsea Clinton’s. Vera Wang dress, $5 million reception, etc etc. What happened to just dancing the night away with your closest friends and family? Now you basically shame yourself unless you offer open bar and spend at least $25,000. Now it’s all about the impression you leave on your guests and how rich you can appear in the wedding photography. I’d like to think this pressure is caused by and falls upon the women, mostly. It’s become engrained in them that it’s their day to be a princess. In fact, they “deserve” it, which essentially means if they don’t get the chance to blow a wedding budget out of the water, then it’s somehow a cramp on their entire romantic life. How many television shows now exist to prove and re-prove this fact? The entire industry, as far as I’m concerned, is perpetuated by toying with women’s pride. If a couple does love each other and exist as a strong team, then what does it say that a wedding is the most important day of their life?
I’m thankful that my girlfriend and I enjoy the simple things and are able to put things into perspective, despite the societal pressure to re-allocate thousands of dollars away from the important things (a place of residence, business ventures, saving for the future, travel) and towards a party that only lasts 12 hours at most.
grahambelldd says:
Aug 1, 2010
Wow great comment man! I definitely understand and see what your saying. My thing is that instead of getting married and spending $25,000 on a traditional reception, I would rather just go experience the dopest and longest trip around the world for a while. To me that experience would be far more significant and a happier memory than just trying to please family members. Thats just me lol
Dziuba says:
Aug 1, 2010
Amen, exactly. If it’s all about the memories, you guaranteed to get more for your $ doing that anyway.